“When someone loves you, they don’t have to say it. You can tell by the way they treat you.”
Love tip-toes in our lives and showers us with happiness untold but fails to reveal itself as love.
It’s pointless asking anyone – ‘have you ever been in love?’ It’s rather clichéd. In fact, what makes me more curious is that have you ever felt someone’s secret love towards you?
We all have been there at some point in our lives. We admired someone. Our admiration grew into love. We longed to be with them, felt elated if we could make them laugh. But we failed to say that we love them.
But what if someone loves you secretly? Can you read the signs? If not, learn to read the signs of love now.
A Little More Than ‘Just Friends’
Someone who is often too polite and cordial in front of you, that sudden spark on their eyes the moment you smile and always agree to whatever you say.
Well, that was one kind. Yet not all secret lovers are like that. Some even pull your leg, make you cry and then also make you laugh-out-loud. Perchance, you may also find them smiling as they watch you react to their antics.
What do you think is that? Certainly not just camaraderie between two good friends! It is much more than that. It’s love!
Love is the most beautiful thing in the world. And to have someone whose heart is brimming till the brink for you – is indeed a matter of luck.
Often we forsake love for friendship or politeness in general. For some people its difficult to confess love in front of the person, they are so deeply and madly in love with.
Yet, love has the ability to make its presence felt. The only thing is that you have to be a little sensitive to take note of certain behavioral attributes that indicate that someone is nurturing secret love for you in his or her heart.
How to Know If Someone Loves You Secretly?
These love sign shows that the person has a deep feeling for you, but not sharing. Find out these behaviors and social cues to know if someone loves you secretly.
1. Physical Gesture
You know that this guy loves you when you catch a glimpse of someone looking at you with a smile on his face. Yet, when your eyes meet, he looks away and then looks back at you again.
Our body exudes our hearts like nothing else in the world. Have you ever noticed someone who has just fallen in love?
There is a remarkable spring in their steps. Alternatively, if you have ever noticed someone who has had heartbreak recently, there would be a sudden drop of energy in them, almost as if someone has sucked life air out of their body. Love is so powerful emotion! And certainly, one’s body can’t lie about it.
Take note of the body language. When someone loves you, they like to have a welcoming stance the moment they sees you.
During a conversation, even if you are in a group, they are more likely to turn towards you. They won’t be able to take their eyes away from you no matter how hard they try. Unless you are too self-obsessed a person, it would not be difficult for you to figure out if someone likes you.
2. Touch of Love
When you love someone, you want to be close to them. Do you have a friend who always finds an excuse to sit next to you?
You would notice that once in a while even your knees touch and they are absolutely candid about it.
They may pat on your hand or shoulder more often and as they touch, there is warmth in it and they would not be too prompt to take their hands back. That’s love. It seeks intimacy.
A light pat on the back of your hand lingers a little more over there, wanting to hold your hand and feel your palm. However, as far as touch is concerned, different cultures across the world have a different social protocol.
3. Care, Comfort, and Support
When someone loves you, they want to reach out to you at every drop of a hat. Men tend to become more protective. Even if you miss a step, he or she might come running as if you were going to have a ‘big fall’.
They are most likely to give you a call to give a traffic update before you leave your house or wait for you outside your office, ask you about your fondest wish, and try to fulfill them no matter how stupid they are. Such gestures indicate that this man likes you.
In case of girls, the expression of love often comes in the form of food. For the longest time, women were given to believe that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.
Even though the mindset has changed now, yet the role of cooking or baking a dish with love is still a warm way to make someone feel special.
Does your best friend or colleague bring food for you often or while sharing with other friends gives a little extra for you, then there is a fair chance they loves you secretly.
Have you experienced words of appreciation being showered on you by a good friend? They find joy in little things you do and always encourage you no matter how small your initiatives have been.
Even blank verses you create sounds like couplets when someone loves you. They listen to you as you talk and laugh. One tends to become a patient listener when he/she is in love. These are some real signs of secret love.
5. Mark of Gratitude
‘Thank you’ pops out of their mouth more often than what is usual within friends.
When a friend or colleague starts showing such marks of gratitude it is a clear indication that it is more than just friendship or a good camaraderie.
Enjoy such gestures till it lasts because if you become lovers, these gestures are likely to vanish.
When you are in a relationship, appreciation and gratitude is replaced by taken-for-granted gestures. It’s a proven fact!
And if you don’t become lovers, such gestures will disappear anyways. Jokes apart, take note of the expression of gratitude for little things which signal out their love for you.
6. Secret Stalkers
In the age of digital communication, secret lovers are more difficult to identify than ever.
There are people who do not show any sign of being concerned about you in front of you by stalk all your activities on social media. It could be a friend whom you meet every day or someone you might have met long back and shared some good time with him/her.
Take a note of the people who viewed your posts. Watch out for someone who never fails to send a like or comment on your posts. Reach out and get into a conversation. You never know, you could discover love!
“When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.” – Harry Burns
Once there were two friends. But they could have been lovers.
A boy liked a girl or a girl liked a boy… and the saga ended there. They could have become soul mates and gift each other beautiful moments of togetherness only if he had mustered the courage to express his love to her or if she had been sensitive enough to notice his love and proposed him instead of waiting for him to confess his love.
It is sad when we lose love simply because we can’t speak up. It is even tragic if we can’t read the indications that someone loves us secretly.
Did you ever have such experience? Or had friends who secretly loved someone but did not have the courage to speak up?
Share your experience with us.
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